Guidance From the Other Side vol 2

I said I’d break this up in parts so here it is, part two of my Psychic Medium experience. If you haven’t had a chance to read the first part you can go here and read about my career advice!

I had to think about how I wanted to word my second question, I didn’t want to come out and ASK for love, but I didn’t want it to be so broad that I’d get an answer about friendships or something like that. It’s no secret that I’m more of a lover than a fighter, and if you’ve followed along since the beginning of this blog you’d have heard about all of my relationship mishaps. ha! So, of course, I would ask the Psychic about my relationships!

The question I posed was this: What guidance can Spirit provide regarding my path towards love and relationships?

See what I did there? Her response, however, wasn’t what I expected. I mean, I’ve always had a feeling that I’d be more alone than not but… no one actually wants to hear that!

Guidance in Relationships

IT IS NOT MEANT TO BE RIGHT NOW. When it comes to relationships, this is second fiddle to your career and happiness. This is not even being shown to me as a “thing”. You must first focus on you, and self-improvement as well as following your TRUE life path. You have to find the passion in your career before you find the (right) passion in your life. After one will come the next.

Well, there you have it. Once again, the only one holding me back is me, and until I make the necessary changes to get back ‘on the path’ I’ll be forever alone. I was actually kind of taken back by this comment, mostly because there’s NOTHING. Not even a hint of what could be if I got my life together, not a single glimmer of hope there. I’ve seen gimmicky psychics that filled me with hope but nothing ever came from their readings. Which is one of the main reasons that I’ve always put this off

For some reason, you have a lot of obstacles with men to overcome. This is tied to your life as a child as well. The cycle continues until you break it.
Are you strong enough to?YES.
When you find your strength as an individual… not relying on others or what THEY give you, things will look bigger and better than ever before. Then will come the financial and material gain.
Physical improvement and health is also necessary in this path you are on to your higher self. Self confidence is a must. ALWAYS.

Obstacles is a nice way to put it. Granted, this is just advice, she’s been pretty clear that it’s not fact, because no one can REALLY know. If I chose to take her advice then it’s likely that my life will work itself out.

So I’ve made changes, taken steps to figure this all out and I’ve noticed a change. I am not fixed, but I am fixing myself.

I recently saw a doctor to work on that confidence piece… So there’s still hope.


Guidance From the Other Side vol 1.

This is likely to turn into a four-part series, of sorts. Let me start by saying that I am a believer. I believe that there’s something more out there, a God if you will. Or maybe even Gods, I’m not entirely sure. But because of this I also believe that there are ‘others’ out there to help guide you through life. I am not necessarily a religious person, but more of a spiritual person and I’ve experienced some things that maybe others haven’t. Nothing too wild, but still, enough to make me rethink the ‘path’ that I was meant to be on.

That being said, I know a woman who’s been recommended to me for many years, I was hesitant to speak to her at first because while I wanted to know things, I didn’t really want to know. Plus, for a while, she was a bit hard to get a hold of so maybe that was a sign that we weren’t meant to connect, until now. I reached out to her recently to try and give it another go, and she responded. She classifies herself as a Paranormal Psychic Medium, I’ve never heard a negative thing about her and know people (who I hold to a high regard) who have gone to her for guidance.

So you get to ask 4 questions during your reading, and as I’m a bit scatterbrained and tried not to ask anything too specific I asked about the basics: career, romance, life/health, spirituality. The latter was more for guidance in the matter as I’ve been doing research but find I need more of a mentor in that regard, but more on that later. So here’s part one of my reading.

Regarding My Career

There is a need for a  change in career. It is encouraged that you pursue something that encourages you to be “artistic” or creative in some way. This needs to be something that is your true passion, or something that you find a great deal of interest in. You are drawn to it… but with that comes another message.  

A man will make this difficult for you. You should remain strong in your desire as it is where you are meant to be. However, this man is under 30, and difficult to understand. He is all over the place with his thoughts and processes. He is often seen as a quitter, but picks up again and says he has it all together. He is a teller of white lies… very ridiculous lies… exaggerates and it is obvious. He pretends to be friends with people and often talks behind their back and will throw anyone under the bus when he can for his own benefit. Be careful of this person… if he’s not in your life now than he will be in the near future. You will see good in them and try to look past what everyone else says or thinks. DONT

Right off the bat I knew what she meant, I like what I do and have worked hard the last 3-4 years to get where I’m at, and while I know that there’s still a lot of work to be done and so much more for me to learn about what I do now… it’s not something that I LOVE. I hear other people talk about what it is that we do and you can just tell that this is their life. This is what they want to do and this is what they thrive in, and I don’t know if it’s just the way that I’m wired or what, but I’ve never really felt any joy or passion in anything that I’ve done. I found something that I’m good at and that isn’t necessarily just a job, I can make something good come of this, but I still feel like something’s missing.

The line of work I’m in now can sometimes be creative, but I still feel that I lack a sense of drive and want to succeed. But again, maybe that’s just how I’m wired?

There is one thing that I really do love to do. My biggest fear (I guess) is that I’m afraid I’ll hate it once it becomes a job. And I can see that happening, I love to bake, but sometimes I find it so stressful that I realize that it’s not something I would want to do on the regular. I do it now because I enjoy it, I enjoy how the finished product can make someone feel, but sometimes the moments leading up to that can be stressful!

As for the guy… I’m not sure who that is. I had a few people in mind but as I read further I realized those characteristics didn’t apply to the people I thought it was. So I guess I’ll just be on the lookout! Until then, I have a lot to think about on what my future holds and what path I want to take… because unfortunately, it appears this is the first step in my journey to happiness.

Getting Back On The Saddle

After a really long hiatus, I’ve decided to take an active role in my dating life. As I’ve gotten older I find the idea of dating apps to be pretty daunting, but with all of the changes that I’ve made in the last year going out and actually socializing with people has been difficult.

Since I’ve relocated, again, I find my social circle to be pretty limited. Don’t get me wrong, I love my family, but any time we get together it’s always the same people. So my opportunities to meet NEW people have been pretty limited. So obviously I jumped back into the dating apps, I updated all of my information so that it was current and picking people from the correct area. Because for a while POF was still matching me with people in Chicago.

And then I met someone, we talked for a bit through the site, and then exchanged numbers. I took that as a good sign because I don’t just hand my number out to anyone, but I had a good feeling about this guy. He was funny, independent, ambitious, kind and we appeared to have quite a bit in common. So we set up a date to meet, it didn’t happen though because there was a series of events that caused us to reschedule three times.

After each time though, he always seemed really apologetic, I get it shit happens and sometimes things can’t be avoided but I thought I’d give him the benefit of the doubt here.

Then this past weekend, I was at a baseball game on Saturday hanging out with my cousin and her friends. Texting sporadically with this guy talking about how excited we both were about finally meeting (on Sunday).  We were still figuring out what we were going to do when my Cousin offered me two tickets to Sunday’s game. Knowing that this guy was a huge Cardinals fan I thought perfect! So we made plans to meet at the ballpark just before the game. He showered me with flattery and told me he appreciated the thought and that he couldn’t wait.

Sunday morning comes around and I get a text saying it’s supposed to rain, but he was still down to go to the game if I was. So of course, I said yes, worst case scenario we could go to Ballpark village or something to get out of the rain if it got worse. I went about my business, got ready to go and headed out to the ballpark a bit after 12:30PM. Parked the car and then text him while I was walking to our meeting spot.

I sat in front of Gate 2 for about 30 minutes or so, debated whether or not to take out my umbrella because it was starting to drizzle but opted to just wait it out since it wasn’t too bad.

And I never heard from him again…

Even when you think someone’s a decent person they can prove you very wrong, and I think that’s what annoys me the most about online dating. I had hoped that people in this age range would be past ghosting or games, but I guess not.

Sugar And Spice, And Everything Nice

I’ve been doing a lot of reading about Ketosis and going on a Keto diet, I couldn’t fully commit to it just yet so I’ve been focusing on low carb for now.

But the one thing I can’t get past is the sugar in my coffee. 😦 Every other meal or treat that I’ve had in the last week or two has been relatively perfect and planned out. Each meal is proportioned according to whatever calculations the lady at the gym gave me…

Except I miss the taste of my morning cup of coffee! I figured if I kept it to that ONE teaspoon of sugar a day then I’d be okay, but I know that things don’t really work the way they’re supposed to unless you fully commit. I replaced whole milk for Half & Half (although I’m thinking heavy cream might be better) and last night I went out and bought some Stevia. Convinced myself that it would be OK and that it’d taste normal… or at the very least that it was an acquired taste and that I’d get over it.

So this morning arrives and it’s time to make that precious cup of coffee…

And all I can taste is the artificial sweetener. I don’t even taste the half & half, which has always had more of a ‘chalky’ texture to me. So my question to the universe… is there a keto friendly sugar replacement that DOESN’T tastes like PURE sweetness or chemicals?! Or do all sugar substitutes taste the same and I just need to suck it up, or just give up coffee all together?!

I guess I can do that, I drink it more out of routine than the need for caffeine, and there’s always tea. I don’t think I need to sweeten tea, all of the stuff I have is herbal or berry flavored anyhow.

On the bright side, at least I’m only struggling with sugar in my coffee. My mom (who is on the same meal plan for support) is still struggling with the idea of just eating meat and veggies at every meal. The woman loves her rice, pasta, and tortillas. I told her not to worry about it, she can eat whatever she wants, but she said if I’m doing it then she can do it too.

Getting older is hard work

All the changes have happened and I’m in a place I never thought I’d be.

Over the last 6 months, I’ve gotten rid of basically everything I owned and replaced it, primarily with clothes but who’s really keeping track!?

I started my life journey in North St. Louis, Mo… moved to the NW Suburbs of Chicago at the age of 7 and lived there until I was in my early 30’s. I traveled to StL for holidays and family events and every time shook my head when asked: “when are you moving back!”. I dreaded visiting during the hot summer months, or any month really because I always thought it was hot to some degree! ha.

In 2015 I reluctantly moved to CA, where I spent 2 years working on a new career and spending time with family. After which I returned to Chicago, to less than enthusiastic old friends, for which I take most of the blame as I tend to be horrible at keeping in touch with people. And within 6 months or so decided that it just wasn’t for me anymore so I was moving “home” (albeit semi-reluctantly).

And now here I am, doing something I hate so very much: starting over.

The upside to this, however, is that my entire family is in StL so things have been pretty busy since I’ve been here. And, thanks to that career that I mentioned early I was able to do very adult things like buying a house!

I joined a gym (and have actually been going), I’ve changed my diet and I’m making changes.

Still not looking forward to that summer though, but I’m making the most of it because change is good… right?

I don’t know how I’ll end up using this blog, but I wanted to start writing again so we’ll see. I’ll likely bore you with the details of my meals and re-acquainting myself with the city that I first called home.

~ Ciao!

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New Year New Beginnings!

Resolution for 2016:

  1. Make better use of your personal blog (hello blog!)
  2. Figure out what the HELL I’m allergic to so that I can stop eating it (even though it’s probably something delicious)
  3. Complete at least SFDC 5 certifications (Woot! New job Ya’ll!!)

Keep it simple, keep it light.

A lot has happened since I was “laid off”, for starters I’m not in Chicago anymore!